Self-Care for Busy Mums (and how to make it work)

motherhood new mums postpartum self-care Jun 04, 2025

Let’s be honest - when you’re a mum, ME TIME can feel like a luxury you can't afford.

Between feeding schedules, work commitments, school runs, and the never-ending pile of laundry, self-care often slips to the bottom of the list. But here’s the truth - self-care isn’t selfish - it’s essential. Taking care of yourself supports your own wellbeing and helps you show up as a calmer, more present version of yourself for your family.

The good news? Self-care doesn’t have to mean spa days and silence (though that would't hurt!). With the right mindset and a few simple strategies, you can build a realistic, sustainable routine that fits into everyday life - even when it’s messy and unpredictable.

Why Self-Care Matters More Than Ever

Motherhood is beautiful, but it’s also physically and emotionally demanding. Many mums put their own needs on hold, but burnout, exhaustion, and resentment aren’t signs you’re doing it right - they’re signals that something needs to change. Regular self-care can help to:

Boost your mood and energy
Improve sleep and mental health
Strengthen your immune system
Reduce feelings of overwhelm and anxiety
Remind you that you’re a whole person, not just a parent

It’s not about adding extra pressure to your to-do list - it’s about weaving small, nurturing moments into your day.

Step 1: Redefine What Self-Care Means

Self-care doesn’t need to be expensive, time-consuming, or Instagram-worthy. In fact, it might look completely different depending on the day.
It could mean drinking your tea while it’s still hot, saying no to something that drains you, taking a few deep breaths in the car before going inside, or heading out for a walk with your baby in the pram.
Start by asking yourself: What helps me feel more like myself? Your answer might surprise you - and that’s exactly where your self-care begins.

Step 2: Identify Your Non-Negotiables

These are the basic things you need in order to feel human, even when life is chaotic. For some mums, that might be a quick daily shower, time outdoors, nourishing food, gentle exercise, journalling, or simply a chat with someone who truly gets you.
Choose just two or three small things you can realistically commit to most weeks. Keep it simple - consistency is more important than perfection.

Step 3: Build Micro-Moments Into Your Day

When time is tight, look for little pockets of opportunity, those tiny doses of brightness that make you 'aaaaaah'. A self-care routine doesn’t have to be one uninterrupted hour. It can be scattered throughout the day, in moments like:

Stretching for a few minutes before you get out of bed
Eating your lunch without distractions
Listening to a podcast or some music during a feed
Getting a bit of fresh air
Lighting a candle in the evening and writing down three things you’re grateful for

These tiny acts of care can gently shift your mindset and make a big difference over time.

Step 4: Get Creative With What You’ve Got

You might not be able to make it to the gym - but you can dance around the living room with your toddler. A spa trip may be out of reach - but a long, peaceful shower with your favourite playlist can still feel like a reset. Rather than wishing for big breaks you don’t currently have, look for ways to make everyday moments more meaningful. It doesn’t have to be fancy to be fulfilling.

Step 5: Involve Your Support Network

You shouldn't do it all alone. Whether it’s your partner, a friend, or a family member, let others help. Let someone hold the baby while you have a proper break. Ask a loved one to pop by for a walk or drop off a meal. Accepting help is a form of self-care too. And don’t underestimate the value of connecting with other mums. A quick message to someone who understands what you're going through can be a real lifeline.

Step 6: Be Kind to Yourself

Some days your self-care plan will fall apart - and that’s completely OK. Flexibility is part of the process. There’s no need for guilt if things don’t go to plan. If you miss a day, just begin again the next. You’re building something sustainable - not aiming for perfection. Offer yourself the same kindness and compassion you give so freely to others.

You don’t need to wait for life to slow down before you start caring for yourself. In fact, self-care matters most when life is loud and chaotic. Start where you are. Do what you can. Take small steps and BE KIND TO YOURSELF along the way!